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Our happiness is supposed to come from within our own hearts, why then is that happiness so difficult to achieve? Self esteem and self worth are at the heart of the major problems with self happiness. As out greatest judges, we take apart our minds and our lives and we analyze everything we do. Once we have criticized ourselves to the point of no return, the obscured images we think we are, often become the reality.
by ElliottRoberts
Our happiness is supposed to come from within our own hearts, why then is that happiness so difficult to achieve? Self esteem and self worth are at the heart of the major problems with self happiness. As out greatest judges, we take apart our minds and our lives and we analyze everything we do. Once we have criticized ourselves to the point of no return, the obscured images we think we are, often become the reality.
There are other times in our lives when a fear of the unknown can take hold of us and push us into the realm of self doubt. The fear of failing, not becoming what we once dreamed we would and not attaining success all wreak havoc on the minds eye. When reading this sort of thought, it may sound preposterous, but it is a very real situation for many women.
These self-doubts, self-esteem issues and fears of failure may be the simple three road blocks between your happiness and you. Look closely at your thoughts and beliefs, find out what you need to do to change the path of your life and be honest with yourself about the true causes of your unhappiness. A healthy self image may just be born out of this knowledge.
In order to improve oneself, you need to look closely at your physical, mental and emotional needs as a human being. Are you expecting too much of yourself? Are your measurements of success really attainable? Has life turned out the way your wanted it to and can you change the outcome if it hasn't? These are the questions that you need to answer and looking deep into yourself for the truths will be the hardest part of the journey.
Physical self improvement is usually easy to identify but difficult to achieve. While some self-improvement requires you to undergo a physical transformation (like loosing or gaining weight), other require you to simply accept the body you have-and often that is the more difficult task. When we condition ourselves to believe in a set standard of beauty for which we ourselves do not fit, it makes self-acceptance a trying task. However, it is a necessary task in order to achieve happiness.
Emotionally, many of us have been scarred at some point and this in turn leads to a need for self-improvement. Psychologist and Psychiatrist make a living off of emotionally distraught people. Often times, emotional distress leads to our negative physical self-image as well. Recognizing the source of ones emotional turmoil is the key to improving ones self image. Addressing emotional barriers is a sensitive subject yet it is imperative in order to improve upon ones character.
Self improvement is also and, actually, always mental. The mental side of life is the one that can connect all others together to produce the happiness we desire. Without mental focus on the real meaning of life, the achievements of life will mean nothing and the bar will be set so high that the failure to meet the expectations will result in even lower levels of happiness.
A happy mind, soul, heart and self are all needed for overall life happiness. Improving oneself for the better can lead to an improved love of the world around us. It is believed that once the unsuccessful person stops trying to be successful, success knocks on the door.
About the Author:
The author, Elliott Roberts, is a writer at Becomng, a Self Improvement blog, discussing ideas from How To Become Wealthy to Productivity, and more. Visit Becomng, and change your life forever! |
